Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Friends or No Friends

Friends are something everyone has. Some may say they have no friends, but that is a lie. No matter how unpopular you are, you always have some sort of friend.

Be it your family, a teacher, another kid in the class, the girl that lives next door, or the awesome hobo on the street corner. A personal experience I can relate to thinking I have ‘no friends’ was back in 8th grade. In 8th grade, I was a new kid, new to the school, and fairly new to public school.

I only knew 3 people there, and I didn’t have any of them in my classes. I went through the year as the reject kid, as you might describe, no-one was really a good friend to me, but even still I had people I could go to.

For instance my Math and Social Studies teachers, they were always glad to talk to me and help in any way, be it academic or psychological. Over time I earned small friendships with some of the other smarter kids in the class, others that weren’t highly respected because they were ‘smarter’ than others.

I made it through 8th grade to go into high school, which ended up being here, in Early College, because of my friend, Mrs. Corbett, my Social Studies teacher. Sometimes I think if I hadn’t known her more personally, I would never of had the opportunity to come to this school.

Opposite sex friendships

There are many ways that someone can stay away from drama occurring in a friendship. Girls tend to be in drama a lot when most of their friends are of the same sex. In the present, you see that girls tend to hang out with guys more.

The reason for this is because guys tend to stay away from complicated drama and girls look for that. Now this can also cause more drama because if people see a girl hanging out with so many guys they begin to insult her about her values.

This happened to me a lot in the 8th grade because in 7th I had too much drama with girls. The year after I began to hang out with more guy friends and my drama went away for a while until people began to talk about me and the reason why I hung out with so many guys.

Another thing that can happen is that guys and girl friends can begin to be attracted to each other and this might ruin the friendship. I guess that being friends with the same sex and being friends with the opposite sex contradict each other and compete head to head in being the best.

Friendships can be very complicated but as long as you try and stay a true friend with the ones that really matter to you then they should do the same. Everyone should value friendship and make it matter in their life.

The True Face of a Friend

"True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."

- George Washington

To say you have a true friend is to imply that you have known them for longer than a few weeks, that you have gone through trials and tribulations that have made you even closer to one another. A true friend is someone who isn't afraid to point out that you did something wrong, and tries to help you in any way possible.

The truest friends stick with you when things get tough, and don't doubt their decisions about it either. True friends are the one's you can tell your password to, the one's you can share anything with and not be judged.

"A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses."

- Proverbs 27:19

This quote is very powerful because it is saying that the friends you have reflect who you are as a person. Friends are friends because they have like beliefs, but even though they disagree on some things, they still accept one another. Friends have a code of honor with one another, although never or rarely mentioned you expect things from your friends and they expect things from you. 

This belief system holds up with almost every true friendship I have had. True friends are the people that keep you in check, just as they expect from you. I believe this quote speaks towards the code of honor you share because part of choosing a friend is knowing that they will live up to it and you will live up to theirs.